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Potty training twins … oh the joy of it! August 21, 2010

Filed under: Let's talk about ...,Tips and Ideas — twinningattitude @ 2:02 pm

Don’t we wish potty training was as CUTE as it looks?

So, my twin boys are 34 months old, and I’ll be the first to admit that, being so busy and distracted with a slew of other pressing issues going on in our family, I’ve probably not been as diligent, committed and focused on potty training as I should be. About a week ago, that all changed when, with my four older kids back in school, I’d made the commitment to concentrate and devote the next few days (and probably weeks, but hopefully not months) to getting the job done!

As the mom of three sets of multiples, I’m often approached with statements like, “You’ve already successfully potty trained two sets of twins, and are now on your third … you must be a PRO … so, what’s the trick to potty training multiples?”

My first response is to say that each of my sets of twins have consisted of children who are very different from each other. Referring to them and perceiving them always as a “set”, or a collective of two little people who should be expected to behave and fit into the same mold as the other, is an incorrect assumption. We as moms of twins know already, even identical twins are complete individuals. With that said, I recall my first set of twins (my girl/girl set) having one (Lauren) being completely ready and compliant by 22 months. She showed the readiness signs of expressing her dislike of wet/soiled diapers, demonstrating an understanding of using the potty, and having dry diapers for longer periods. She also was very verbal at that point and could express her desires and understand instructions quite well. Her twin Kathryn, however, was simply not into it at all, and regardless of her sister’s accomplishments, rewards, and “big girl pretty panties”, just wasn’t interested until she hit 2 and 1/2, at which point, she was ready and basically went from diapers to training pants to cotton panties in the course of a week! I believe that ultimately, Kathryn witnessing Lauren’s successes and rewards did play a part in her decision to “get with the program”, so I do believe that a level of peer pressure is a plus! The gap of time that existed between each child’s completion of the process allowed me to focus and concentrate on one child at a time, which was a plus for me. It also allowed for some one-on-one bonding between myself and each of my daughters, one at a time.

My second set of twins are a boy and a girl. Erin would often imitate her older sisters … a REAL PLUS there! By the time she was between 22 and 24 months, she was very into pretty big girl panties like her sisters wore. Encouraging her to sit on the training potty, understanding and enjoying Elmo’s “I Can Go Potty” book, and rewarding her after her successful visits was almost too easy. She, like her big sisters, showed the emotional and physical readiness signs of graduating from diapers to panties, and by the time she was 26-28 months, she was done. Training pants were used at night, but those didn’t last too long with her either, as she would wake up dry and ready to visit the potty upon getting up. Of course, there were often some middle-of-the-night visits, too. Now, Erin’s twin Brandon’s potty training process was a completely different story all together! Although we encouraged him to sit on his own potty, and rewarded him with his successes along the way, he simply decided that the thrill was gone after a few weeks, and decided to regress almost completely after he’d demonstrated his readiness and we’d thought he was just about trained. Ultimately, Brandon was 3 and 1/2 before we could consider him finally potty trained. He was NOT HAPPY as he watched his poo-poo flush away, so we told him that it was probably a fun thing, like going down a water slide! At that point, he decided to say with each flush: “Bye-bye poo-poo, have a good ride!”

Forcing, bribing, coercing, threatening, punishing … of course, were completely ineffective, so we learned and concluded that no matter how many children you have, and regardless of the fact that as a parent, you basically handle situations in the same manner each child, the INDIVIDUAL child is going to be ready, willing and able only WHEN he or she is ready, willing and able.

Benjamin and Sean have been demonstrating the readiness signs for quite some time, and although they’re well-acquainted with their own Mr. Potty, seem to understand and enjoy Elmo’s potty book, have actually both been successful at wee-wee-ing in their potties so far, are simply not consistent, probably because Mommy hasn’t been consistent enough.

My goal is now to have my “very ready, but disinterested” toddler sons potty trained soon. I’ll let you know how it’s going in the next couple of weeks. Hopefully, but then, I’ll be reporting that we’ve rounded the bend and are on our way to total completion!

Stay tuned, and in the meantime, please visit these very helpful websites that I’ve turned to (which I didn’t have access to fingertips 13 and 9 years ago!)

My friend, Pam Fierro writes for, as an expert on twins. Here is her advice on potty training twins, which I intend to utilize!

Two other great site for tips:

and Mayo Clinic’s source:

The BEST reward of all!

Good luck and God Bless!

I wish all of you the best of success you endeavor to potty train your multiples!


11 Responses to “Potty training twins … oh the joy of it!”

  1. Leigh Ann Says:

    Not looking forward to potty training my two, who are now 29 months! One show some signs, but not so much the other. And it’s so funny how people seem so surprised that they have such different personalities even though they are identical. Um…they are 2 different people!

  2. Suzanne Says:

    You are an inspiration to us all. My twins just turned 2 a week ago, and they are not ready for potty training, I look forward to seeing your plans and outcome. Wishing you all the best.

  3. Honey Says:

    My boy/girl twins are 2.5 and I am so not looking forward to potty training them. We have three older boys who all trained at 4 years old. This should be an interesting ride.


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  5. Becky Says:

    We are a month into potty training our 3 1/2 year old boys. I had hoped to have them trained when I was out of work with the new babies (who are now 10 months). But they showed me who was boss. I think we finally have it down mostly. Just have one to go with pooping. Hopefully it won’t be too much longer. Wow, it’s nice only having two in diapers!!

  6. Thanks, moms, for all of your comments!! You all are an inspiration to each other and to ME!!
    Yes, I’ll keep everyone posted to see how my plans play out, because the wills of these too little guys are as tough as nails!!!!

  7. WEND LANE Says:

    I love this post and it gives me encouragement as we head out on the road to being potty trained. I know it will be worth it but oh, for the adventures first 🙂

  8. This a fabulous post and may be one that you should followed up to see how things go

    A pal emailed this link the other day and I will be desperately hoping for your next content. Proceed on the high quality work.

    • Thanks so much, Deeanna … I will proceed as long as the Lord allows me! I really enjoy this outlet and have “met” some great people along the way!
      Stay tuned for my potty-training saga update soon!

      ~ fran

  9. Stumbled upon your blog post via google the other day and absolutely love it. Continue the fantastic work.

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